Older men dating younger women with kids
Yes, she says, ‘I think that might have something to do with when he grew up – he remembers Thatcherism properly, and what it was like when New Labour came in, and he’s never been exposed to 21st Century lad culture in any way, which I think is really nice’.
Similarly, Susan (not her real name) is 27 and currently about to move in with her 44-year-old boyfriend Shaun (yep, not his name either).
Initially, Susan says, she resisted the idea of dating someone older than her because of the cliché factor. I can’t stand it…that recent thing with Brad Pitt being linked to Ella Purnell, who is 21 and looks exactly like a young Angelina Jolie made me furious.
‘I was so torn about this’ she says ‘I still am sometimes. It’s always the case in films, older men having their pick of younger women’.
A young woman dating an older man is often romanticised but it can be very, very problematic too – take Lynn Barber’s story as told in An Education for instance.
At the slightly smuttier end of the spectrum during the research process of this article, I uncovered an entire subsection of erotic fiction on Amazon devoted to the ‘Daddy Complex’ with titles such as ‘Her Mother’s Boss’ and ‘Her Guardian Neighbour’. WATCH NOW: How To Deal With A Massive Penis But assuming that both parties are consenting adults, there’s no doubt that there is just something about an older man.
So, from a personal perspective, it is intriguing’.
Psychologically speaking, however, she says ‘the majority of researchers do believe that the preference for older man can be linked to our fathers.
This preference exists cross-culturally which suggests that it is nearly universal’.We think we know why we’re attracted to older men but is there more to it than we realise? She says that there is scientific evidence which suggests that ‘dad or shag’ is both a psychological and evolutionary phenomenon and not just a cultural cliché.‘The research in this area shows that not only are younger women attracted to older men, but older men are attracted to younger women, a convenient situation for heterosexual couples’ she explains.‘It is funny that you contacted me about this when you did’ she says, ‘last weekend I met some friends from college and I realised that we were all married to older men.Most of us had husbands about three to four years older, but some of us had husbands that were ten years older.