Ex girlfriend is dating other guys
One he rekindled a relationship with during his proposal to me. I’m more social,” says Mys Quiraa, a 34-year-old couples counselor and founder of Sacred Awakenings. They decided to begin open relating after eight years of ups and downs.
“It’s about not having the control over each other,” she says.
To Seku, “Traditional relating is just not matching up. Some men look elsewhere in order to feel like they’re not dying.
They want to reproduce what they felt when they first met their wife.
“If I’m reading this guy won’t be able to handle it, or girl won’t be able to, there’s an insecurity there.
In that situation, I will totally advise against it.” When conducting a session with a monogamous couple interested in trying something new, Menzise focuses on self-esteem and self-confidence.
“I’ve come to find out a LOT of women are open to being with another woman and having fantasies about another woman,” says Menzise of the marital threesomes.
Seku says, “Marriage is a great club to belong to say ‘I’m married’ and flash the ring.” He says he meets many men whose “intention is to be exclusive, but it’s not working for them.
They may be losing their libido or desire for life.” But he also points out a number of reports that 70% of divorces are initiated by women.
In situations where people who are monogamous say ‘O.k., we’ll be able to work it out’ and their partner alludes to ‘I know what you’re saying, but I’m going to start seeing other people anyway,’ they typically do not succeed.” For those who present with a willingness to try open relating, their reasons vary but may often include incompatible sex drives.
Menzise says he has seen many situations where one partner feels inadequate in a sense of not being experienced enough or not lasting long enough such as with a wife who may have a higher sex drive.
For instance, if a female seeks advice for an infidelity issue, as an alternative to leaving she may suggest open relating as a form of taking control.