Christian view on dating
First and foremost, dating is a time when a Christian finds out if his or her potential marriage partner is also a believer in Christ.The Bible warns us that believers and unbelievers should not marry each other, because those living in the light (of Christ) and those living in the darkness cannot live in harmony (2 Corinthians -15).Courtship advocates claim that courtship allows for the two people to truly get to know each other in a more platonic setting without the pressures of physical intimacy or emotions clouding their view. For daters, spending time alone with a member of the opposite sex whom we find attractive can present temptations that can be very hard to resist.The Christian dating couple must have boundaries in place and be committed to not crossing them.Of course, the courtship style presents its own set of difficulties.While many courtship advocates see it as the only choice for finding a mate, others find it oppressive and overly controlling.Sexual immorality is a sin not only against God but against our own bodies (1 Corinthians ).It is important to love and honor others as we love ourselves (Romans 12:9-10), and this is certainly true for a courtship or dating relationship.
In the end, the Christian character and spiritual maturity of the couple is far more important than the exact nature of how and when they spend time together.
Does God have one specific person for you to marry? What is an appropriate level of intimacy before marriage?
Are we supposed to be actively looking for a spouse?
Many in a courtship relationship will not spend any time together unless family members, preferably parents, are present at all times.
In addition, courting couples state up front that their intentions are to see if the other person is a suitable potential marriage partner.
The first is that we must separate from the world's view on dating because God's way contradicts the world's (2 Peter ).